"Your beauty should not come for the outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of the gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight." -1 Peter 3:3-4
Growing up, I looked around at all the older women walking down the street or in the mall, and I wanted to be just like them.
Wearing high heels, and dressing up in pretty dresses, and putting on make-up.
One thing that the world never taught me, it's okay to be yourself. It's a sad culture we live in nowadays, where girls are starving themselves because they can't fit into that size two dress they found at the mall. Or, that people are feeling so bad about what they don't have that they dive deep into a depression that they can't survive in.
I'm here to say that I've been one of those girls. I see these gorgeous women gracing the covers of magazines, or walking around with big diamond rings and wearing expensive brands. Needless to say, I wasn't ever happy with the way I looked, or the way my clothes looked on my body. I tried so hard to push past the insecurity, but it always seemed to follow me around like the cloud of depression in the Abilify commercial.
I didn't enjoy going shopping because you always had to get those ''bigger sizes'', and I didn't want any of my friends to see my clothes because I thought they would think they were way to big. In reality, I was right on target with how a normal girl should grow up. I was an great size in my doctor's eyes and to some of the boys, I was even pretty. So why was I so hung up on my outward appearance, when it was okay?
Answer: The world has a way of sneaking up on you when you least expect it.
The magazines displayed all around showed half naked women and men that have been photoshopped, or touched up and made into something that they're not.
Newsflash! Not all men are going to look like David Beckham, and not all women are going to look like Kim Kardashian. (Sorry, not sorry) So why put yourself through the trials to look like these people? Because the world says that's what we're supposed to look like.
I'll be honest, I look at those magazines as I near the check out for the grocery store, and roll my eyes at some of the covers.
The Lord tells us our body is a ''temple'' used for His work. That means that when we have to take care of ourselves yes, but that also means not to belittle ourselves by looking at the half dressed men and women of the world and comparing us to them. That hurts Him because no matter what you may look like, you are His child and He loves you.
And when He says our bodies, He means our whole body. Everything from the top of your hair to the ball of your foot.
"So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God." -1 Corinthians 10:31
We aren't perfect people, we don't all have small waists, and the prettiest hair, but that's the way the Lord made all of us. He made us in His image, not in ours. While we live in the body we live in, we should take care of it, but we shouldn't criticize it. We have to learn to love ourselves before we can ever love anyone else.
So I challenge you to look in the mirror whenever you get a chance, and take a really really good look at yourself. List five things you love about you. That could be that you have amazing abs , or you love the way your eyes light up in certain lights, whatever they are, write them down and hang them up somewhere where you will see them every single day. As you find more continue to write them down, but remember
"Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up." -James 4:10